Exams are on the horizon for young people up and down the country. So we decided it was time to bust a few exam myths which can create unnecessary stress and anxiety before exams.
Exam myths busted #1: poor exam results will ruin your life
Exams are a part of your development and growth as an individual. They are a way to assess whether you have retained what your lovely teachers have been trying to teach you.
They are important but they are unlikely to ruin your life. Here are a few reasons why.
By the end of your education, the idea is that you walk out as a well-rounded individual, not just an exam passing machine. Therefore skills you develop from part-time jobs, school/uni clubs or voluntary work are just as vital as exam results.
What comes after these exams?
Secondly, consider the fact that exams tend to be followed by, well, more exams.
Of course, that means going through the emotional wringer more than once but it also means poor results can be overcome.
Next time you might need to take a few more classes or do some additional study but it is possible to recover from poor exam results.
Exam myths busted #2: your parents will be ashamed by your poor results
This is one of the exam myths that cause many young people to carry a crippling level of expectation upon their shoulders.
What we might interpret as pressure to avoid the shame of poor results, is often well-intentioned encouragement from our parents.
They just sometimes do it really badly.
We believe in you
Your parents want you to realise your potential because – and sit down for this one – they believe in you more than you probably believe in yourself.
Though it might not seem like it at times, your parents love you no matter what. And the possibility that you might not get straight A’s in all your exams is nothing compared to what you’ve already put them through.
They loved you then and will still love you now
They loved you when all you would do is poop, cry and throw up. They loved you when you rolled around in the muddy grass all day and then sat on their new cream sofa. Or that time you threw the mother of all tantrums in Asda.
I could go on but you get the picture. When it comes to something as tough as high school or university exams, does it seem likely that they will disown you if results don’t go your way?
Rest easy and know that your parents want you to do well for yourself, not because they want to boast about you on Facebook.
Exam myths busted #3: failing exams makes you a failure in life
Exams are important but their ability to ‘make or break’ your life is another one of the most damaging exam myths.
It is easy to lose sight of one simple truth: your life is yours to live. Therefore what are you looking for in your life?
What will success look like for you based on your perspective and not the opinions of your parents, friends or society?
Getting into the toughest university courses and becoming a brain surgeon might be what you want to achieve. Or it might not.
How do you define ‘success’?
From that truth, a logical conclusion follows: what constitutes ‘success’ is defined by literally thousands of decisions and experiences over the course of your life.
Exams are a part of that process but not the be all and end all. For example, if you don’t get the grades needed for your chosen university course, you might wrongly assume that is it. Game over.
There are plenty of alternative options: start a related course and transfer across later; retake classes at college to bag the results you wanted; find a company that takes on school leavers as apprentices/trainees. The list goes on.
Ultimately what you want to do in your life is up to you. Exams will form part of that journey but they certainly will not mark the end of it.
Don’t let exam myths stop you in your tracks.
Coping with exam stress
To help students and parents navigate the difficult time before, during and after exams, The Spark has produced a series of articles.
These cover our tips on how to approach exams and ways to manage and reduce the stress and anxiety you might be feeling.
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