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As part of Depression Awareness Week, The Spark is featuring a series of posts about depression and relationships. In this blog we look at the difficulties faced by those trying to help a loved one through depression and the impact it can have on relationships. For a recap on spotting the signs of depression, check out our earlier blog ‘Depression: spotting the signs’.

Supporting a loved one with depression

 

Depression and relationships

Living with depression is not easy – for the person suffering from depression and for their loved ones.  If you are well but your loved one is struggling you may feel unsure how to cope with their symptoms and this may put pressure on your relationship. In some cases, depression may be the result of underlying relationship difficulties.  The good news is that there is help available.

How can I help my loved one through depression?

 

  • Depression is an illness. It drains energy, enthusiasm, optimism and confidence. Encouraging your loved one to seek professional help through their GP is the first step to recovery. Find out more here
  • Patience with the patient is important. Mental illness is not something a person can simply ‘snap out of’. Once treatment starts it may take time for your loved one to start to feel better.
  • Be a compassionate listener. It is not about giving advice or instantly ‘fixing’ the problem. The simple act of being present and listening, without judgement, can be a huge lift for them.
  • Be affectionate and let them know that you care about them and are there for them. Reinforce that you will get through this period together as feelings of isolation are common for those with depression.
  • Encourage getting exercise, doing enjoyable things and listening to music. Getting fresh air, exercising and doing pleasurable activities releases natural endorphins which help reduce feelings of depression. Read this guide to Exercise for Depression.
  • Try to understand how your loved one is feeling. They may feel like a failure and a burden. They will want to be better but often they simply cannot find the energy to cope.
  • If you feel that mental illness is impacting on your relationship with a loved one, The Spark can provide relationship counselling and relationship support. Freephone our Relationship Helpline on 0808 802 2088 for immediate support or to discuss options around counselling services in your area. This service is also available online by clicking the ‘Chat to us online now’ link at the top of the page.

Be compassionate to a loved one with depression

 

Support for me

 

Whilst helping a loved one through depression it is important to be mindful of your own mental health and wellbeing. You can speak to a member of The Spark team free and in confidence on 0808 802 2088 about how depression might be impacting on your relationship with a loved one.

There are other practical steps you can take in maintaining your own wellbeing.

Keep your own appointments

Try to keep your own life on track. Some changes to daily life might be needed whilst helping your loved one but it is important to keep as many of your own plans and arrangements. Keep appointments with friends and family wherever possible, and if your loved one feels unable to attend with you invite a friend.

Be supported as well as a supporter

The individual suffering from depression is not the only one who needs support – you do as well. Speak to a trusted friend or family member, consider a support group or speak to a professional counsellor. The Spark Relationship Helpline is available on freephone 0808 802 2088 to provide support and advice. We can also provide counselling sessions to deal with the relationship challenges depression may cause. Freephone 0808 802 0050 to discuss counselling options or complete an enquiry form.

Recharge your own batteries

Take care of yourself. Life without pleasurable and fun activities will make it difficult for you to be strong and supportive for your loved one. You need time to recharge your batteries so maintaining boundaries between what you can and cannot do will help nurture your own wellbeing.

The Spark Relationship Helpline is available on freephone 0808 802 2088 and online to offer immediate support and advice. Tackling depression is best done with a wide range of support tools in place and The Spark is here to be part of that support system.

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